If you're anything like I think you are, you made a decision this year to care for new life, to nurture it, to protect it, to love that new life with more love than you ever knew existed.
This job, mamahood, isn't for the weak.
It's really hard.
Really really hard.
There are lots of choices you have to make for your new babe. Choices people around you will look at, analyze, and judge.
Choices you already have made.
Choices you will make in 16 years when they ask you for the car keys.
New mama, there are lots of resources, books, websites, groups, to help you make those choices.
You will research.
You will google.
You will ask your friends.
You will ask people you don't know.
Uninvited, people you don't know will tell you what choices to make. Doctors, parents, ladies at the grocery store, moms at the park, babycenter... lots of people. All uninvited.
This generation of moms is the MOST well read, well researched, of all generations- and you're part of it. There is more information out there to drown under than ever before. Information, opinions, facts, ideas...
But there is something important to remember.
Really really important.
The decisions we make, with our babes at heart, are made out of love.
No one makes a decision because they think it's the wrong one for their baby. No one.
No matter how critical people are of your decisions, new mama, it is important to remember you're making them out of love.
That is all that matters.
Here's another thing, new mama...
We overestimate our importance.
We overestimate the direct effect of our actions.
We hyperanalyze every single decision we make and how it is going to mess our perfect baby up - but mamas I'm here to tell you - I promise, it just doesn't matter that much.
That's the great thing about our babes.
We get to start new everyday.
We get to apologize if we make a mistake.
We get to try again.
Babies are very forgiving.
They are made of love. They are made of your love. They are made to love you.
They will forgive you. The mistake you *think* you made yesterday, and the day before, and the day she had to cry while you took the quickest shower of your life, will be forgiven and forgotten, new mama.
There is always an opportunity to make a different decision.
A better researched one.
There is always an opportunity to second guess.
There will always be things you forgot to pack in your well organized, pocket filled, insulated diaper bag... but really being a mom hasn't begun until you have dried to make a diaper out of a t-shirt, and use socks for wipes right? That mistake will be forgiven, I promise, when you make a new mistake tomorrow. Forgiven and forgotten.
Another thing, new mama. Try and relax when people, lots of them, bombard you with advice and things to do (except for me... mine is more important than theirs).
People will tell you to "enjoy every moment" and that it "all goes so fast."
New mama, it's ok to wish the horrible moments go faster.
It's ok to long for a time, a car ride, a bathroom trip, that's quiet.
Do remember and savor the good times, the fun times, the snuggling, the waking up at night just you and the baby. Those times are fleeting and really all we will remember about our kids.
Since we seem to forget the bad stuff (just ask any parent of a grown-up... their kids were born perfectly behaved, walking, safe, polite, etc) - don't focus on it. Don't dwell on it.
New mama, savor the good stuff. Really savor it. Photograph it, write about it, tell your friends.
Forget the bad. The sleeplessness, the time outs, the screaming in the grocery store.
No one remembers that stuff anyway.
Happy Mother's Day Mama. You're amazing, perfect in your mistakes, and perfect in your love.
One Organic Mama
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